What Is "Kyoobing"?
What is Kyoobing? If you have any experience with Authentic Relating and Circling, you might recall that one of the focuses of Circling is creating a safe container so you can practice your social awkwardness, freely make mistakes and be witnessed and supported while being fully expressive and authentic without fear of repercussion. So “Circling” is where we practice within the confines of a container so that we can live Authentic Relating throughout the course of our everyday lives. It’s a truly magical and freeing experience. However whenever I have experienced Circling I noticed a key element missing. I noticed that while the premise is to be able to express whatever shows up to you, the idea of “sex” or sexy thoughts or attractions were always omitted. I know that for me, the topic of sex, attraction, wondering if I’m attracted to them, wondering if they are attracted to me… in some form ALWAYS comes up. Early and often. In fact, sometimes it’s my most dominant thought. And I know I’m not alone. So I knew if this was coming up for me, then it was for others. And this means we weren’t really being truly authentic. I recognized that due to societal pressures and outside influence, even with the agreed upon environment of safety and “anything goes” (as long as it’s in service of connection), people were still afraid to include their sexual fantasies. In Kyoobing we are saying, “Look.. we recognize that we are trying to learn stuff about ourselves, each other, and how we are perceived by others. We know that sexual attraction, however frowned upon, is absolutely a part of it.” So let’s create a bubble where we can practice. In this container we can assume that every person desires to be respectful and has a genuine desire to learn about themselves and others in a deeply authentic and possibly sexual way. Any admission or revelation is not intended to make fun of, degrade, coerce, or disrespect anyone in any way. We simply witness and when it feels connective, we respond authentically, openly, and compassionately. No one is forced to take part in any exercise or discussion and anyone can end their involvement in the exercise or group at any time. It’s said that manners are a social lubricant. We have certain unwritten societal guidelines that we have to follow in order to appease our egos and help people live and work together more fluidly. The problem is sometimes adhering to these rules prevents us from expressing truly authentically and receiving accurate feedback from our environment. So things move along, but often the underlying problem or opportunity is not addressed at all. So no growth occurs and no connections are formed. When we create a Kyoob we say, “Hey. We all respect each other and want the best for ourselves and each other. Let’s agree to act with those intentions and understandings. So sometimes even though we might step outside of the societal rules, we can know that what we are hearing is coming from a place of respect and is an authentic statement.” So Kyoobing is the workshop where we can explore ourselves and each other's sexualities and expressions so that we can master our interactions with ourselves and loved ones in the future. Kyoobing Elements Withholds Consensus Observation Share Reaction Noticing Being with your sensations Revealing your experience Owning your experience Assume nothing Honoring self and others Empathy Impact But HOW Do You Kyoob? Round 1: Drop In Create the actual Kyoob and align energy (eg 3 deep breaths together) Round 2: Check In Notice what you are feeling in your body. What energy are you bringing to the Kyoob? Round 3: Discovery Discuss your present issue. Share if you want to Kyoob a certain issue with someone, if you have a personal Kyoob, or if you want to make a desire known or ask permission of someone. Round 4: Kyoobing The facilitator will suggest certain issues to Kyoob based on the responses from the discovery round and the allotted time. Round 5: Check Out Discuss any impact, close any loops, close the Kyoob.
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My father was the first person in our family history to attend high school. He was the youngest of 8 brothers. In their family when you became high school age, you instead went to the cotton fields to help support the family. Being the youngest, my dad thought of it as a rite of passage. It was a chance to join his older brothers and he could not wait. But when he reached high school age he received from his parents the worst news of his young life. Apparently with his 7 brothers in the field they had enough to provide for the family. So he wouldn’t be joining his brothers after all. After high school my father earned scholarships through sports and received his bachelors and then masters degree. He got a job teaching English and coaching baseball at a small high school. He won a state championship with the varsity team and got noticed by a bigger richer school and got recruited. He moved us soon after. My experience trying to fit in at the new school was wild. I loved to connect but there was a problem. I was the only black male in the entire school system in certain instances. And they wanted me to know it. No matter what I did I made someone mad and I couldn’t fit in. I tried embracing and shunning my culture. I just got more frustrated. So eventually I just stopped looking outside for validation and went inside. I decided to live my life on my own terms. Interestingly, that’s when the fun and magic started to happen. I was accessing my power through authenticity. I was starting to become a conscious creator for the first time in my life and it felt great. This is where the Inside Out Method sprouted. Connection with each for any purpose starts with two people meeting. We need to learn to flirt! People used to flirt with each other safely in everyday organic situations. Before social media people used to meet organically all the time. Many of our parents met in the supermarket or standing in line at the bank. Validation However with the advent of dating sites and other technologies Dr. Zhana Vrangalova says flirting has been relegated to three socially acceptable areas: dating sites, night clubs, and certain social gatherings. The majority of my research comes from these highly educated women experts in the field, Dr. Zhana (PhD Developmental Psych) and Vanessa Van Edwards the founder of People School. She talks about how we walk around not expressing our desires and how this is unhealthy. We’ve even seen women post about how “safe men know not to approach women in parking lots.” And we get it, lots of women are traumatized by men who simply don’t know how to approach. Furthermore, if they do get rejected, even cordially, they act inappropriately at best… violently at worst. So the solution, she says, is not to ban flirting in public or make it faux pas. It is to teach us how to approach respectfully, effectively, and safely while being able to demonstrate that safety. And to learn how to receive rejection gracefully. What We’ll Learn So that’s what we’re going to learn over the next hour. Keep in mind these are the basics and of course you’ll want to develop these and fit them to your own individual unique style. But here are ways that work. In IO there are three core connections. The order is extremely important. First Connection - Personal Connection You are contagious! Sweat samples story Indifferent to outcome. You’re investigating. Second Connection - Social Connection Just take action to naturally flow into 2nd Third Connection - Public Purpose Connection
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